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xmas wish...

Postby blahblahblah on Wed Dec 22, 2010 6:07 am

hi, i feel retarded posting on the internet but i stumbled upon this web site after arguing with hubby and sitting here crying by myself since he walked out and went to sleep... i guess i'm just venting... life has just been depressing since this cataclysm expansion came out for world of warcraft. hubby gets so impatient and frustrated when he plays. he snaps at our 11 month old babies with angry tones when they tug at his legs or cry for attention. he yells at them to quit whining and yells at them to stop. he was even worse when they were 5 months old but we had an argument back then and he agreed not to do it anymore. fast forward to now with cataclysm and boy, were back to square one. he's not a total flake though. he has a job that has income but he doesn't do much. he just does the bare minimum so he can play games. if they knew what he was doing they would probably fire him. i gave up my job that made twice his salary in order to take care of our girls. i used to play an mmorpg but since we had babies this year, i've tried to stop living like a bunch of college dorm kids and act like a responsible parent so i haven't played. unfortunately, he still does and worse, he plays world of warcraft. i've never played wow, but that game just seems to suck him in so horribly. since cataclysm came out, he stays up late playing. he doesn't want to go out. when i drag him out, he is grumpy, playing video games on his iphone, complaining and wanting to go home. in the rare moments he spends with our babies, he is often sleeping, flopping on the floor and closing his eyes. he doesn't eat dinner much with us in the dining room anymore. he just grabs food and runs to the computer. tonight when i asked him to feed the babies while i was cleaning, he brought his laptop to the dining room and logged onto wow. every couple minutes the babies were crying because their trays were empty. there was no food and meanwhile hubby was feverishly punching away at keys... talking to him lately is like talking to a wall. his mind is always on the game... i stare at the back of his head so much... we used to make love but since cataclysm came out he stays up so late playing that he is just always tired. he has stopped exercising. he's also gained a lot of weight, probably 50 lbs, this year since he started playing wow. he eats so much junk food while playing wow. our fridge will be full of nutritious healthy foods but lately he will grab a box of cookies and milk as his meals at the computer. last week i did some research on world of warcraft to figure out the parental control thing so i could see his playtimes. he clocked 5172 minutes (86 hours per week! 12.3 hours per day!)... i wish for xmas the blizzard entertainment servers would go down. i wish i could have back the man i married. i wish my babies could have their daddy back. sigh...
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Re: xmas wish...

Postby Psykiblue on Wed Dec 22, 2010 10:44 am

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Have you thought about maybe unhooking the internet? Canceling it?

My best advice is that while this sucks, and it hurts you can't stop living your life because he can't see past the computer screen. Do you have family/friends that can help you with your girls? Do you think leaving might be a solution? If only temporary. It doesn't sound like you can leave your girls alone with him at all which is sad since he's their dad and suppose to be their caregiver.

I would really recommend talking to a close friend or family member if you haven't already and as always you are welcome to vent here. But you are not alone which is what is what is so unfortunate so many are sucked in. His play time of 86 hours a week? Holy crap. That is astounding and a sure sign that something is wrong.

Do you have his password to WoW? Can you change it/his security question? Maybe that will get him to see the light so to speak if he doesn't have it to play for a day or so.

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Re: xmas wish...

Postby blahblahblah on Thu Dec 23, 2010 5:47 am

hi psykiblue, thanks for listening to my rambling. no, we can't turn off the internet because he uses that for work. my mother has been coming by on the weekdays to help me take care of the babies because i've been so exhausted and sleep deprived plus i've had a long recovery period from all the birth and pregnancy side effects. can't really talk to anyone about it because his family has always allowed video games plus his siblings play with him. my family is absolutely against video games and tv which doesn't help because my parents tend to be the overbearing critical in-law types who will lecture forever about anything that sets them off.

i hate blizzard... hubby's gaming report from the blizzard site is frightening.

Playtime for 12 Dec 2010 - 18 Dec 2010

Date/Time of Login Date/Time of Signoff* Minutes Played
12 Dec 2010 12 Dec 2010 01:42 AM 86 min
12 Dec 2010 12 Dec 2010 05:43 PM 414 min
12 Dec 2010 12 Dec 2010 11:27 PM 198 min
13 Dec 2010 13 Dec 2010 12:58 AM 30 min
13 Dec 2010 13 Dec 2010 08:13 PM 647 min
13 Dec 2010 13 Dec 2010 11:51 PM 132 min
14 Dec 2010 14 Dec 2010 02:37 AM 146 min
14 Dec 2010 14 Dec 2010 05:14 PM 247 min
14 Dec 2010 14 Dec 2010 09:48 PM 270 min
14 Dec 2010 15 Dec 2010 01:50 AM 127 min
15 Dec 2010 15 Dec 2010 05:55 PM 490 min
15 Dec 2010 15 Dec 2010 10:13 PM 30 min
15 Dec 2010 16 Dec 2010 01:55 AM 137 min
16 Dec 2010 16 Dec 2010 03:38 PM 371 min
16 Dec 2010 16 Dec 2010 09:53 PM 370 min
16 Dec 2010 17 Dec 2010 12:05 AM 62 min
17 Dec 2010 17 Dec 2010 11:53 AM 79 min
17 Dec 2010 17 Dec 2010 03:46 PM 99 min
17 Dec 2010 17 Dec 2010 05:47 PM 118 min
17 Dec 2010 17 Dec 2010 10:45 PM 225 min
17 Dec 2010 18 Dec 2010 12:16 AM 60 min
18 Dec 2010 18 Dec 2010 02:32 AM 127 min
18 Dec 2010 18 Dec 2010 12:56 PM 133 min
18 Dec 2010 18 Dec 2010 10:10 PM 423 min
18 Dec 2010 19 Dec 2010 02:11 AM 151 min
Total Minutes: 5172 min
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Re: xmas wish...

Postby blahblahblah on Mon Dec 27, 2010 5:42 am

well my xmas wish did not come true... in fact it got worse... i must have jinxed it...

Playtime for 19 Dec 2010 - 25 Dec 2010


Date/Time of Login Date/Time of Signoff* Minutes Played
19 Dec 2010 19 Dec 2010 07:11 PM 510 min
19 Dec 2010 19 Dec 2010 08:31 PM 75 min
19 Dec 2010 19 Dec 2010 10:11 PM 96 min
19 Dec 2010 19 Dec 2010 10:43 PM 15 min
19 Dec 2010 20 Dec 2010 03:57 AM 239 min
20 Dec 2010 20 Dec 2010 05:39 PM 387 min
20 Dec 2010 20 Dec 2010 11:59 PM 376 min
21 Dec 2010 21 Dec 2010 02:52 AM 149 min
21 Dec 2010 21 Dec 2010 12:30 PM 156 min
21 Dec 2010 21 Dec 2010 12:41 PM 8 min
21 Dec 2010 21 Dec 2010 04:29 PM 223 min
21 Dec 2010 21 Dec 2010 09:00 PM 270 min
21 Dec 2010 21 Dec 2010 10:23 PM 75 min
21 Dec 2010 21 Dec 2010 11:54 PM 11 min
21 Dec 2010 22 Dec 2010 01:39 AM 104 min
22 Dec 2010 22 Dec 2010 09:23 AM 2 min
22 Dec 2010 22 Dec 2010 12:08 PM 157 min
22 Dec 2010 22 Dec 2010 04:12 PM 236 min
22 Dec 2010 22 Dec 2010 11:44 PM 347 min
23 Dec 2010 23 Dec 2010 02:02 AM 120 min
23 Dec 2010 23 Dec 2010 12:44 PM 133 min
23 Dec 2010 23 Dec 2010 04:55 PM 154 min
23 Dec 2010 23 Dec 2010 05:36 PM 39 min
23 Dec 2010 23 Dec 2010 11:06 PM 153 min
23 Dec 2010 24 Dec 2010 12:09 AM 17 min
24 Dec 2010 24 Dec 2010 01:41 AM 90 min
24 Dec 2010 24 Dec 2010 02:43 AM 33 min
24 Dec 2010 24 Dec 2010 03:58 PM 346 min
24 Dec 2010 24 Dec 2010 06:52 PM 170 min
24 Dec 2010 24 Dec 2010 11:43 PM 290 min
24 Dec 2010 25 Dec 2010 02:36 AM 167 min
25 Dec 2010 25 Dec 2010 03:30 PM 301 min
25 Dec 2010 25 Dec 2010 10:52 PM 440 min
25 Dec 2010 26 Dec 2010 12:28 AM 30 min
Total Minutes: 5919 min
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Re: xmas wish...

Postby happiness on Tue Dec 28, 2010 7:54 pm

Adding up the numbers I get about 13 hours of play each day - including the night of Xmas. That is definately at an addicted level. Your story is sad and way too similar to a lot of stories in here. I don't really know what to tell you. Take care of your self. Make sure you know what you want to happen and seek it out. Take the neccesary means to protect yourself. Maybe he will wake up and realise what will happen if he doesn't quit. Maybe not. Either way - you need to think about yourself. Keep reading the threads here - lot of useful and related stories.

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Re: xmas wish...

Postby blahblahblah on Wed Jan 05, 2011 7:10 am

Playtime for 26 Dec 2010 - 01 Jan 2011

Date/Time of Login Date/Time of Signoff* Minutes Played
26 Dec 2010 26 Dec 2010 01:17 AM 21 min
26 Dec 2010 26 Dec 2010 03:57 PM 342 min
26 Dec 2010 26 Dec 2010 09:39 PM 214 min
26 Dec 2010 26 Dec 2010 10:02 PM 11 min
26 Dec 2010 26 Dec 2010 11:44 PM 100 min
27 Dec 2010 27 Dec 2010 12:42 AM 41 min
27 Dec 2010 27 Dec 2010 09:54 AM 24 min
27 Dec 2010 27 Dec 2010 12:12 PM 125 min
27 Dec 2010 27 Dec 2010 04:44 PM 264 min
27 Dec 2010 28 Dec 2010 12:59 AM 213 min
28 Dec 2010 28 Dec 2010 01:20 PM 353 min
28 Dec 2010 29 Dec 2010 12:52 AM 542 min
29 Dec 2010 29 Dec 2010 01:06 AM 10 min
29 Dec 2010 29 Dec 2010 02:41 AM 89 min
29 Dec 2010 29 Dec 2010 06:05 PM 467 min
29 Dec 2010 29 Dec 2010 06:36 PM 8 min
29 Dec 2010 29 Dec 2010 10:58 PM 79 min
29 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 12:13 AM 28 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 02:34 AM 126 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 11:14 AM 83 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 12:20 PM 39 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 12:52 PM 25 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 02:36 PM 30 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 03:20 PM 15 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 04:23 PM 53 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 07:22 PM 178 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 07:32 PM 7 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 08:13 PM 35 min
30 Dec 2010 30 Dec 2010 10:08 PM 102 min
30 Dec 2010 31 Dec 2010 02:15 AM 164 min
31 Dec 2010 31 Dec 2010 11:54 AM 82 min
31 Dec 2010 31 Dec 2010 09:03 PM 420 min
31 Dec 2010 31 Dec 2010 10:17 PM 60 min
31 Dec 2010 31 Dec 2010 10:48 PM 20 min
31 Dec 2010 01 Jan 2011 02:41 AM 168 min
01 Jan 2011 01 Jan 2011 12:35 PM 117 min
01 Jan 2011 01 Jan 2011 07:26 PM 264 min
01 Jan 2011 01 Jan 2011 10:13 PM 79 min
Total Minutes: 4998 min

ughhhhhhhhhhh..... can't sleep... been stressing.... then to make things worse, i just pigged out on a bagel and two big bread rolls as comfort food with a cup of hot water. ruined my diet for the day.... hubby had another dr. jeckyl and mr. hyde incident today. but can't really tell anyone. bleh...
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Re: xmas wish...

Postby Sugar70 on Tue Jan 11, 2011 10:23 pm

I would really recommend talking to a close friend or family member if you haven't already and as always you are welcome to vent here. But you are not alone which is what is what is so unfortunate so many are sucked in. His play time of 86 hours a week? Holy crap. That is astounding and a sure sign that something is wrong.
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